Tuesday, January 1, 2008
Why I Don't Trust the Media..
In 2002 I was writing a book (it never came to fruition). A journalist got word of it and asked to write an article about me. I thought, "Why not?" The interview went smoothly enough, we joked about being single, my roommates were in the room, I thought it went well. However, when saw my face on the front page of the Daily Herald, and then read the article accompanying it I was mortified. First- front page news? This was front page news? I was on the front page? What the? Second the article was a total LIE! The journalist had manipulated my words to make me look pathetic and arrogant at the same time. She used quotes that I didn't say, she even got my current job title completely wrong. I almost vomited when I read it, I lost my appetite completely. I then proceeded to steal all the newspapers out of the vending machines on BYU's campus in hopes that no one that knew me would read it.
Lucky for me, the majority of BYU students don't read local newspapers, but some of my mom's old boyfriends and college roommates residing in Provo read it and sent the article to her saying, "Kathy, Is this your daughter?" I started looking for a rock to crawl under. I wanted the earth to swallow me whole.
Today I stumbled upon this article on the internet- I got a good laugh. I went through my scrapbook and found the hard copy with this lovely picture. I'm not embarrassed by the article anymore, it's hilarious in so many ways. A life lesson stuck with me, I figure if a small town newspaper with no personal agenda could misrepresent me on such a simple story - then big stories by the big media must be really screwed up.
Here below for your reading pleasure is the TOP STORY (seriously, THIS was the top story in my college town) on April 24th, 2002.
Graduate chronicles leaving Provo without ring
The Daily Herald
By AMY K. STEWART
The Daily Herald
PROVO -- Kory Welch doesn't know whether to laugh or cry after experiencing dating at BYU for four years -- and looking at graduating this week without a wedding ring.
So she's writing a book about it: "Don't I Get My Tuition Back? Graduating from BYU Single."
"I had a plan since I was 8 years old, and I feel like my plan has run out," said Welch, 24, a senior from San Diego majoring in global trade and world economy.
"Now what?" Welch said.
That question haunts her and many other women who are about to leave BYU unmarried.
BYU is seen by some as the perfect place to find the perfect mate -- especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who live outside of Utah, where the number of Mormons is slim.
"BYU is definitely the great candy store," Welch said.
But if that's so, why is she graduating single?
One night in September, Welch woke up at 3 a.m. in a fit of anxiety.
She sat at her computer to vent her musings and theories on dating and marriage at BYU. She now has 45 pages written and is working on getting her book published.
Welch said she doesn't feel bad about graduating single.
"It's another step in life. It's not a failure," she said.
"It's just the Mormon culture puts so much stigma on us," Welch said. "I wonder if there's something wrong with me. But there's a huge number of LDS people who are over 24 and single."
And Welch does have a post-graduation plan.
She is working as a marketing assistant for KISN 97 FM and plans on moving to Salt Lake City after she graduates this week.
Embarking alone on this adventure in a new city is scary, Welch said, but she plans to meet the challenge head-on.
"It's not as bad as people would think," she said.
What's more difficult, she said, is dealing with the negative perceptions of others: mainly the "smug-marrieds."
When questioned at a recent missionary reunion about why she was still single at BYU, she quipped: "It takes a little longer than four years to find someone of my caliber."
Twenty-four of Welch's roommates have gotten married while she was at the university, she said.
One of Welch's theories of marriage at BYU, as outlined in her book, has to do with puzzle pieces. Some people are plain squares or triangles and can fit well with anyone. Others have intricate angles, she said.
"There's more than one person for you, but it's harder to find a decent fit," Welch said.
Slim, smart, talented and good-looking, Welch said she could likely find a guy at BYU and be married in two weeks.
"A lot of people here are marriage-focused and not spouse-focused," she said.
Another theory Welch outlines in her book is the candy-store analogy.
BYU is like one giant candy store with a huge selection: Snickers, Baby Ruth, Butterfingers ... so many to choose from, she said.
"Those who stick around in Provo after graduation are the ones who don't want to leave the candy store, but also don't have the guts to make a purchase," Welch said.
Or the ones who do leave find themselves at a ballpark snack stand, and all that's available is Snickers, she said.
"Your choices are narrowed," Welch said.
Though she has felt great pressure to marry while at BYU, Welch recently broke up with her boyfriend.
"My mother was crushed," Welch said, "but it wouldn't have been a good marriage. Just because I was in love with him doesn't mean I was supposed to marry him."
Welch admits she has commitment fears.
"And marriage is forever," she said.
This story appeared in The Daily Herald on page A1