Monday, April 28, 2008
You hang out with your friend of 13 years and her husband. You use to like her husband a lot. He use to be a stand-up guy, with integrity and loved his wife immensely. After hanging out with them recently you realize that this really great guy has morphed into a total tool.
He doesn't respect women, least of all his wife, he's arrogant, vulgar, has no sense of propriety. He takes Viagra, he's proud of it- it's dinner conversation. Every time he opens his mouth you cringe with embarrasement. He surrounds himself with men that suck up to him because he has lots of fun toys, and takes them on trips. His friends aren't nearly as idiodic as he his, but they endure his sexism and stupidity, and think he's pretty cool because of the almighty dollar. He buys his friends.
You see that your friend is uncomfortable with the way her husband talks and acts but she thinks that all men are like that,(I mean, after all his friends think he's the bee's knees) the problem is magnified because she thinks she married up. Her mother is constantly telling her how lucky she is to be married to such a good-looking wealthy guy that likes to travel. You would never say anything to her about her husband because she thinks he's perfect- aside from his reckless spending habits.
Your friend is a wonderful, giving kind person with a good heart who has always been there for you and is a lot of fun. She is one of your oldest friends. Unfortunately, her husband is a douche who you would be glad to see drop off the face of the planet.
Do you just not hang out with them ever again? Do you try to arrange girl nights so that you don't have to see the guy? Is there anything you CAN say? What do you do?