Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Two Years Down...Time and All Eternity to Go
When Brent and I were engaged my brother and his wife of 2 years took me out to lunch the conversation went like this:
Kyle: “Kory, just so you know- the first year of marriage is really hard.”
Kory: “I know”
Kyle: “No, I mean it’s REALLY hard. You’re going to wake up one morning and think, ‘What the hell did I do?’ And I'm not talking about 6 months after you’re married, I mean way sooner than you think”
Kory: “I get it, I expect it to be tough”
Kyle- eyes open wide, face tenses, reaches out grabs my arm and says: “Kory you don’t understand. The second year is great. I love being married but the first year is REALLY REALLY hard”
His wife sounding a bit defensive: “Kyle it wasn’t that bad.”
Kyle looks at her, says: “You’re right it wasn’t awful. It was just a tough adjustment” But then he looks to me and mouths: “It sucked”
Maybe it’s just those with really strong personalities that have lead selfish lifestyles that have a hard time with year one. I remembered my brother’s words a lot through that first year- and strangely, they comforted me.
My brother was right, year two was AWESOME, well worth suffering through year one.
Happy Anniversary Brent.